The day is here, with heavy heart

Thanks for all the replies, it really helps. Had the vet come by this morning and we put him down while in the back yard, laying in the grass and loffing in the sun. I thought I was prepared for this day....it is a hell of a lot harder than I imagined. The girls are doing ok, they had their time to say goodbye last night.

R.T., Heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. In my opinion this is the hardest thing you will ever have to do...next to watching a wife husband or child have to die. Even then I'm not sure it isn't still harder, because our animals cannot do anything for themselves, but we don't have a "choice" with family. Our pets are in effect, our prisoners. They have to suffer and die if we so decide to make them. I applaud you for the strength and LOVE you have shown in chosing to do what he could not do for himself. In effect you have demonstrated that you are willing to suffer so that he, your dog, won't have to do so any longer.

I was born into a Christian home and accepted that was the way it was. As an adult after some questioning of my religion and my faith, I realized that Jesus loved me enough that, even in my sin, He loved me enough to willingly go to the death on a cross to give me redemption and freedom from my sin death. You loved your dog with that same love and are hurting in his place right now. He could not help himself just as we, you and I, could not pay our sin debt. You loved him enough to set him free. I cannot think of any better definition of love. Please take confort in the knowledge that what you did was because you loved him.

Do not mourn too long, because he would not want it. I believe perhaps the greatest tribute we can give our dog is to get another. We cannot REPLACE them, but we can share our love with another. The dog knows he can't stay with you, but he knows you miss him, and your wanting another says to him that he did his job well! The new dog will sit side by side in your heart with the dogs of the past. They have a way of doing things that remind you of great memories of the others, and when you are ready just remember there will never be a puppy that can't squirm up into your lap, lick your face, and not make you feel better about almost anything.

Please forgive my presumtion of understanding about your loss and the long windedness of my response. I was a vet for forty years, and I grieved for everyone I had to put down in that time, those of others and my own. God bless your family.

Bill
 
RT.....Sounds like you handled it to the upmost degree. Know that there is nothing more you could have done, and rest easy now knowing that he is totally pain free, and perfect in every way.

Hard to teach about the American Revolution through watery eyes...
 
At least you know that there are members on this forum who can empathize with your loss. We are all very,very sorry. Hang in there, man.
 
R.T., Heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. In my opinion this is the hardest thing you will ever have to do...next to watching a wife husband or child have to die. Even then I'm not sure it isn't still harder, because our animals cannot do anything for themselves, but we don't have a "choice" with family. Our pets are in effect, our prisoners. They have to suffer and die if we so decide to make them. I applaud you for the strength and LOVE you have shown in chosing to do what he could not do for himself. In effect you have demonstrated that you are willing to suffer so that he, your dog, won't have to do so any longer.

I was born into a Christian home and accepted that was the way it was. As an adult after some questioning of my religion and my faith, I realized that Jesus loved me enough that, even in my sin, He loved me enough to willingly go to the death on a cross to give me redemption and freedom from my sin death. You loved your dog with that same love and are hurting in his place right now. He could not help himself just as we, you and I, could not pay our sin debt. You loved him enough to set him free. I cannot think of any better definition of love. Please take confort in the knowledge that what you did was because you loved him.

Do not mourn too long, because he would not want it. I believe perhaps the greatest tribute we can give our dog is to get another. We cannot REPLACE them, but we can share our love with another. The dog knows he can't stay with you, but he knows you miss him, and your wanting another says to him that he did his job well! The new dog will sit side by side in your heart with the dogs of the past. They have a way of doing things that remind you of great memories of the others, and when you are ready just remember there will never be a puppy that can't squirm up into your lap, lick your face, and not make you feel better about almost anything.

Please forgive my presumtion of understanding about your loss and the long windedness of my response. I was a vet for forty years, and I grieved for everyone I had to put down in that time, those of others and my own. God bless your family.

Bill

Wow, well said! Getting another one just means that he did his job so well, you can't imagine not having a pup around. Rest well my friend.
 
So sorry for your loss. I found this poem shortly after we lost my Maddie. Hope it helps




I remember bringing you home. You were so small and cuddly with your tiny paws and soft fur.
You bounced around the room with eyes flashing and ears flopping.

Once in a while, you'd let out a little yelp just to let me know this was your territory.

Making a mess of the house and chewing on everything in sight became a passion and when I scolded you, you just put your head down and looked up at me with those innocent eyes as if to say: "I'm sorry, but I'll do it again as soon as you're not watching."

As you got older, you protected me by looking out the window and barking at everyone who walked by.

When I had a tough day at work, you would be waiting for me with your tail wagging just to say, "Welcome home, I missed you."

You never had a bad day and I could always count on you to be there for me.

When I sat down to read the paper and watch TV, you would hop on my lap looking for attention.

You never asked for anything more than to have me pat your head, so you could go to sleep with your head over my leg.

As you got older, you moved around more slowly. Then one day, old age finally took its toll, and you couldn't stand on those wobbly legs anymore. I knelt down and patted you lying there, trying to make you young again.

You just looked up at me as if to say you were old and tired and that after all these years of not asking for anything, you had to ask me to do one last favor.

With tears in my eyes, I drove you one last time to the vet. One last time you were lying next to me.

For some strange reason you were able to stand up in the animal hospital - perhaps it was your sense of pride.

As the vet led you away, you stopped for an instant, turned your head and looked at me as if to say: "Thank you for taking care of me."

I thought, "No - thank YOU for taking care of ME!"
 
Sorry for your loss! Its tough that their life span is so short compared to ours. We all have lost dogs (lost my two labs 23 days apart a couple of years ago) and can feel for you and family. Remember the good times!
We now have a 7 mo Lab and starting over.
 
Prayers for you and your family. Most will never know just how much a good dog can mean to a family.
 
So sorry that the day had to come. We just went through the same thing in my family.

But you gave him a good life, and thats the best you can do.
 
This thread really hit a nerve. After reading the poem by Youth Guy, I am in my office, teared up, hoping no one walks by. I am sorry to hear of the passing of your best friend. There is nothing anyone can say that makes that any easier. We all have stories of our friends that we have outlived, and the decision to put them down is never an easy one. My dog has been there for me every minute for the last 9 years. I don't have a wife or kids to come home to, but I do have someone that is always glad to see me. She is always ready to hunt, even if she gets stickers in her paws. It is impossible to be in a bad mood with your dog curled up in your lap. Even after the worst day ever, all it takes is one nudge from that cold nose on your neck and the day just melts away. They truly are man's best friend, and nothing can ever take that away. God bless you, may God give you comfort in this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
My sincere prayer for you, your family, & Trigger. A dog's only fault, really, is that that they don't live near long enough. My Daughter, her fiance, & I reminisced Saturday about Tana ("Katie's Montana Gold"), the grand yellow Lab who helped raise 2 fine Kids. Dogs are God's gift . . . get a new pup. I was devasted when I had to put black Maggie to rest several years ago . . . told myself "No more bird dogs." It was a huge mistake; my new pup has filled a huge void & Hank has the benefit of a happy home. Words don't often help, but I'll share a compilation tribute I put together for Mags & hope it helps . . .

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Her bright eyes are intent; Her eager body quivers. Suddenly she begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, her legs carrying her faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...
Addendum 5/10/09 . . . As Wil Rogers once said, “I don’t know if dogs go to Heaven, but if they don’t, I want to go to wherever they do go when I die.” I’ll second that wish . . . Maggie, my "Furry Child" and no one was ever blessed with a better Lab or a finer companion. Mags was a splendid creature . . . she above every other Lab I've had (there have been three), was by far and away the most gifted . . . both in terms of skill, instinct, intelligence, ability and above all, of her capacity to teach this old boy about unconditional love . . . of this she was full to bursting. When this photo was captured, Maggie had flawlessly retrieved 20 geese that crisp Fall morning, reveling in the experience and she was wondering why we were picking-up decoys. I call it, "Birds in the Air." Not pheasants, her passion, but most appropriate nonetheless. I'll miss her . . . she was my Loyal Friend, my Dog of a Lifetime. All people should be so blessed . . . the world would be a better place. Thanks, Mags . . .

j.

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I feel your pain. After reading the poem I got a tear (a bunch of tears)in my eye. I had to take my dog to the vet to put her down about a year ago. She was 16 years old and it was her time. Right before she passed from the injection she licked my hand as to say thanks! I cryed for hours after burying her in the backyard. All dogs go to heaven. Hang in there and the sorrow will pass.
 
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Her bright eyes are intent; Her eager body quivers. Suddenly she begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, her legs carrying her faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

To go with this post......


"Unlike most days at RainBow Bridge, this day dawned cold and gray, damp as a swamp and as dismal as could be imagined. All the recent arrivals were confused and concerned. They had no idea what to think for they had never experienced a day like this before. But the animals who had spent some time waiting for their beloved people knew exactly what was happening and began to gather at the pathway leading to the Bridge to watch. They knew this was something special.
It wasn't too long before an elderly animal came into view, head hung heavy and low with tail dragging along the ground. The other animals on the pathway...the ones who had been at RainBow Bridge for a while...knew the story of this sad creature immediately. They had seen it happen far too many times.
Although it was obvious the animal's heart was leaden and he was totally overcome with emotional pain and hurt, there was no sign of injury or any illness. Unlike the pets waiting at the Bridge, this dog had not been restored to his prime. He was full of neither health nor vigor. He approached slowly and painfully, watching all the pets who were by now watching him. He knew he was out of place here. This was no resting place for him. He felt instinctively that the sooner he could cross over, the happier he would be. But alas, as he came closer to the Bridge, his way was barred by the appearance of an Angel who spoke softly to the old dog and apologized sorrowfully, telling him that he would not be able to pass. Only those animals who were with their special people could pass over the RainBow Bridge. And he had no special beloved people...not here at the Bridge nor on Earth below.
With no place else to turn, the poor elderly dog looked toward the fields before the Bridge. There, in a separate area nearby, he spotted a group of other sad-eyed animals like himself...elderly and infirm. Unlike the pets waiting for their special people, these animals weren't playing, but simply lying on the green grass, forlornly and miserably staring out at the pathway leading to the Bridge. The recent arrival knew he had no choice but to join them. And so, he took his place among them, just watching the pathway and waiting.
One of the newest arrivals at the Bridge, who was waiting for his special people, could not understand what he had just witnessed and asked one of the pets who had been there for some time to explain it to him.
"That poor dog was a rescue, sent to the pound when his owner grew tired of him. They way you see him now, with graying fur and sad, cloudy eyes, was exactly the way he was when he was put into the kennels. He never, ever made it out and passed on only with the love and comfort that the kennel workers could give him as he left his miserable and unloved existence on Earth for good. Because he had no family or special person to give his love, he has nobody to escort him across the Bridge."
The first animal thought about this for a minute and then asked, "So what will happen now?"
As he was about to receive his answer, the clouds suddenly parted and the all-invasive gloom lifted. Coming toward the Bridge could be seen a single figure...a person who, on Earth, had seemed quite ordinary...a person who, just like the elderly dog, had just left Earth forever. This figure turned toward a group of the sad animals and extended outstretched palms. The sweetest sounds they had ever heard echoed gently above them and all were bathed in a pure and golden light. Instantly, each was young and healthy again, just as they had been in the prime of life.
From within the gathering of pets waiting for their special people, a group of animals emerged and moved toward the pathway. As they came close to the passing figure, each bowed low and each received a tender pat on the head or a scratch behind the ears. Their eyes grew even brighter as the figure softly murmured each name. Then, the newly-restored pets fell into line behind the figure and quietly followed this person to the Bridge, where they all crossed together.
The recent arrival who had been watching, was amazed. "What happened?"
"That was a rescuer," came the answer. "That person spent a lifetime trying to help pets of all kinds. The ones you saw bowing in respect were those who found new homes because of such unselfish work. They will cross when their families arrive. Those you saw restored were ones who never found homes. When a rescuer arrives, they are permitted to perform one, final act of rescue. They are allowed to escort those poor pets that they couldn't place on Earth across the Rainbow Bridge. You see, all animals are special to them...just as they are special to all animals."
"I think I like rescuers," said the recent arrival.
"So does God," was the reply"


I have kept a compliation of dog thoughts, stories, or whatever.
It's 47 pages long, on a word document.
If you would like a copy, send me an PM with your email and I'll pass it along. It has everything from rescue stuff, to Gene Hill, to Babcock, and others.

"Someone said that the only place you can bury a dog is in your heart. That way you can call the dog in for a little chat now and then, teasing it about being a clumsy puppy and looking down at your old hunting boots, remembering who it was who put the teeth marks there. You can hunt a day or so again, together, when you need a certain kind of memory-another day you like better than the one you are living in now." Gene Hill
 
Excellent, Vjohn. PM sent.
 
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