I had to go and read this thread, now am worked up again. I've got a "buddy", we met in college. 28+ years ago he was my best man. Over the years we've lost touch a couple times, but 10 years ago he moved here after a divorce. We no longer hunt together and some of the reason cited earlier in this thread were contributing factors. today we're golf partners and I had hopes he might quit the club and allow me to have some peace on league nights.
The only time we do something together, including things like dinner with our wives, etc., is when I call. I took him hunting, fishing, golfing, you name it, always a promise of "we'll have to have you over", or whatever, without any real reciprocation. He just stood us up last night again, having something more important to do than follow through with plans to get together. Well I'm done with that.
My wife's brother in law is another type. Years ago I invited him along on a weekend walleye fishing trip. He showed up without any food or drink to share, then proceeded to eat and drink us out of house and home. A couple times of that and I quit extending the invitation. After a couple years he called to invite himself along and I told him no. Some years later and another of the family commented that he's turned over a new leaf, so I asked him to come ice fishing. He brought me some beer as a gift for having him stay with us, but ended up drinking it after he consumed all of his own, getting falling down drunk by 5:00 pm. I'm done with that, too.
There. Now I've ranted and feel better. Thanks for listening.