You live in WI or ND ?
The opposite is often true with some landowners too. They know that giving permission to out of staters is typically a one time or once a year event ... locals often take the yes as a season pass / if not life long acceptance.
My relatives farm and ranch along some of the best deer land in ND. It was interesting to watch my uncle work through that quagmire with the locals. His usual perspective is locals can access the land after opening weekend and/or once our party filled our tags. Local "tresspassers" were common during the week and he typically did not confront them or call them in... he always said you have to live with these people the other 364 days of the year.
I lived in ND for 34 years had to move to Wisconsin 6 years ago for a job. Should be able to move back in 5 years. I hope. (I never said I currently live in small town ND, Just wish I still did)
We find it opposite in our area in North Dakota. We give locals access if they ask because we have to see them in church every Sunday or at the grocery store. Etc. The out state hunters you tell them no and you never see them again.
We also don't believe in charging people of paying to hunt land. But have no problems with people that do, it's a resource.
As far as people trespassing without permission (we usually catch 2 per year) it's usually out of town hunters. Lot of time it's out state hunters thinking it's like SD where you can hunt the ditches without permission that happens a lot.
We don't have that issue that yor relatives have with saying yes means yes always.
It's interesting that your relatives feel that way. I guess different parts of states have different attitudes towards local hunters. For me if a guy I went to school with for 13 years asked me to hunt and I said no, I would feel bad. But if some guy from out state asked and I said no it doesn't bother me, for me it's harder to tell someone you know and see all the time no then a complete stranger.
I know when I ask other farmers in the area if I can hunt there land, I never have been turned down. But that might because my family have lived there since 1903.
I personally believe locals have an easier time accessing land for pheasants especially after the first two weeks then non residents..imo.
Now for deer that's another ball game. We don't hunt deer with a gun. Only bow. People get crazy about deer land in ND.