This is just my 2 cents. If it were me in your situation I think I would seriously consider the new Ruger red label. At least look at one before you buy. Made in the USA if that is important to you.
maybe it's like fly fishing, the problem is not where to put the fly, it's how to get the rod past the spouse.
cheers
How about the CZ Upland Ultralight. Def wont break the bank and their website says it weights in around 6lbs. I also have heard that CZ has great customer service.
Maybe Kick them Up could chime in and let you know if these guns also have cast built into them.